Do you know who you are?
The world offers plenty of tags: a parent, a sibling, an employee, a friend — and the list goes on. Sometimes, we know who we are but most of the time, we listen to what the world says about us. As a result, we get easily confused.
So what do you do when you don’t know who you are?
1. Admit the reality of my current identity
Strength begins with surrendering to God. It is not wrong to admit that you cannot do it all, because the reality is, you really cannot. But when you admit your powerlessness before God, He will empower you with His Spirit.
When you anchor your sense of worth on how God has valued you – measured by the life Jesus Christ laid down for you – you will value yourself better, even if the world says otherwise. Steady and unflinching, God-grounded confidence empowers one to change for the better.
A person with God-grounded confidence is not proud. Instead, they live to give glory to God out of gratitude to and humility before Him. God is the most significant factor on how we ought to see ourselves, our lives, and our circumstances.
This are steps in accepting your identity:
- Understand yourself
- Accept yourself
- Love yourself
- Recognize your strength and weakness
- Be responsible with your self-growth and improvement
2. Identify who you want to become
Becoming the best version of yourself requires you to continuously anchor yourself to your true identity. The most effective way to change your everyday habits, behavior, decisions and choices you make is to focus not on what you want to achieve, but on who you wish to become.
What you want to achieve is more of the GOAL. It’s best to focus on who you want to become. Once a person believes a particular aspect of their identity, they are more likely to act in alignment with that belief .
Along the way, you’ll find yourself making excuses. “I’m not good enough” is a common excuse that stops us from achieving our goal. Fight these excuses. Believe that you can be better if you overcome these “hurdles.”
3. Admit my need for a system
It doesn’t matter how successful or unsuccessful you are at the moment. What matters are the new habits and decisions you make. Do they make you better or not? We often dismiss small changes because they don’t seem to yield results.
A slight change of your daily habits can guide your life to different destination. Try to establish a system of change. Replace harmful habits. For example, if you’re tempted to dive into pornography, distract yourself with other activities like working out or reading. Repeat this habit while fight off the urge to give in to pornography.
Eventually, you’ll see changes in a few weeks.
Who you are right now need not define who you will be tomorrow. If you see area for improvement, go ahead and do it. It’s never too late to be a better version of ourselves and God is willing to help us — if we are willing.
Let Us Help You in Your Journey
Here at Radiance, we’d love to help you discover who you truly our. Join us in our Extraordinary Confidence Online Course, a 21-day program designed to help you achieve a more confident version of yourself through minimalism. Enjoy 30-minute sessions with me and your fellow students as we dive into who you truly are and who God wants you to be.